Little Truth of Hesitation

As a human being, we consider some things as right while other things as wrong. But what does being right truly mean? How do we know if we are right or wrong?

Hesitation is partly affected by the social construct and the environment around us. Imagine a position where you’re in Mars alone, the form of hesitation will be completely different from the form of hesitation when you’re living in big cities, different from those living in rural areas.

There are two kinds of hesitations; the intent hesitation and the taste hesitation.

There are two intentions affecting a human’s decision. One is from the body, prioritizing one’s survival. The other is from the spirit, prioritizing one’s selfless love.

Our feelings and thoughts are the byproduct of these roots, yet we are complex enough to shuffle in both survival and spiritual intent into our decisions. This creates hesitations.

When we are thinking of just survival or just selfless love, the actions we take are really straightforward and honest. There’s never too much hesitation in “I really need to go to the toilet” or “My best friend is hospitalized, I have to visit him”.

But there are occasions where we are trapped in between trying to survive and trying to sacrifice for others. Such as “I don’t need a full time job, but I need to prepare myself to support a family.”

“I really need this monthly bonus to repair my microwave, but this mother and her child haven’t eaten for 3 days.”

This creates hesitation, because one intention is just thinking of one’s own needs, the other intention is thinking of other people’s.

The second is the taste hesitation. It’s the hesitation that comes from our own preferences and tastes, that may or may not link to our survival and spiritual hesitations.

“Is black shirt better than grey shirt?”

“How much sugar should I pour into the tea?”

“Should I eat banana or avocado?”

Everyone can answer differently because everyone has their own preference and taste. There hardly is any right or wrong in this case, unless you have health conditions that will then link to your survival intent.

However you choose between things, hesitations are gonna be a part of choosing. When you’ve chosen things, hesitations are still gonna be a part of sticking with your choices or choosing another.

If there are things that you wish to prioritize, write them down. It helps to reduce your hesitation.

And whenever we can choose between survival and spiritual, by theory it would be the best to always choose the spiritual. But at that very moment of choosing, we may think differently because we’re just human beings.

Despite all that, whatever you choose to do, do it thoroughly.

“Wherever you go, go with all your heart.”

– Confucius


Prompt: Hesitate

A Better Way to Study and Learn

Through our lives, we often face many challenges and shortcomings. Some that we can overcome, some that we have to let go. Whatever we choose to overcome, will demand more commitment and energy from us. We will be exhausted, but will also learn a lot through the experience of trying to overcome a challenge. In these challenges, we learn not because we choose to, but because we have to.

As we grow up, we tend to have more responsibilities. We will have to deal with not just our own challenges, but also the challenges of the people around us. The more successful we are, the more challenges we have to overcome.

But also don’t forget: The more challenges we overcome, the more successful we are.

Now as you may have guessed, challenges that we are trying to overcome are actually the best opportunities to study and learn.

People often set their own goals and deadlines, but there’s no point if the goals and deadlines are not challenging enough. The point is to make a challenge that is difficult enough such that we have to learn something or get better to accomplish it.

There are many challenges that we are facing, but how do we tackle these challenges effectively? And if there are so many challenges, how do we know which are more important?

Let’s begin with listing down the things we have to consider when trying to overcome challenges:

  1. Resources: Time, Knowledge, Morale.Resources are the things we need to use to finish the challenge. Do we have sufficient amount at the beginning? If we have sufficient amount of resources, then try to increase the difficulty of the challenge. Time: Do we have enough time to finish the challenge? Knowledge: Do we have the correct, sufficient knowledge to carry the execution competently? Morale: Do we have enough commitment, enthusiasm, and discipline to carry it thoroughly?
  2. Planning: Schedule, Execution, Precaution.Planning is how the challenge should be carried through, how the execution should be constructed. Schedule: How will we manage the executions within the time limit? Execution: What are the things we plan to do to complete the challenges? Precaution: What will we do in advance if there is a flaw in the schedule/execution?
  3. Reward: Improvement, Revenue, Reputation.Reward is how the challenge will have any effect on ourselves and how we will benefit from the challenge. Improvement: How will this challenge improve anything in our lives? Revenue: Will this challenge give us some kind of income? Reputation: Will our reputation be affected positively?

After we’ve answered these questions, go for a challenge that is most rewarding, and go for a challenge with only one insufficient resource. A challenge that lacks 2 of the resources (time, knowledge, morale) will often be very hard for us to carry out properly.

Example Case:

Working Out

Time: 1-2 hours a week, for a year, manageable (+)

Knowledge: Knowing types of physical training, types of stretching (+)

Morale: Hates working out (-)

Schedule: Every Monday and Friday

Execution: Push-ups, Sit-ups, 15-mins Jogging, finished by stretching.

Precaution: If Monday or Friday is unavailable, shift to Sunday/ Thursday

Improvement: Better health, body image improvements. (+)

Revenue: No (-)

Reputation: Being healthy gives good impressions (+)

When we write things down, we will know for sure what we will face within the challenge itself, and we can come up with better strategy in the future. Every time we feel the negativity in the challenge (lack of time, lack of knowledge, lack of morale), we can always look at this list. Read the resources and notice that we have more sufficient ones. Read the rewards and we will feel more justification of why we should complete it.

So what else are you waiting for? Plan yourself a challenge and finish it.

When we are trying to accomplish those challenges, we will study and learn naturally. And what we’ve studied and learned will stick with us longer because finishing a challenge is a fulfilling experience, it’s not just another textbook quiz.

“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one”

– Bruce Lee